What decided to be yours, will be yours.

Hi there,
It’s Zidnie again.

October 2018, few days before my birthday, a very good news came; Mas Fahmi chosen as one of the Lecturer in Faculty of Animal Science, Universitas Gadjah Mada, one of his dream and of course, I am happy and so proud of him.

The day before he submitted the application, he was with me and he asked my suggestion about his sentence and the grammar before he pressed ‘submit’. When I read his application, my eyes were caught by a sentence of his motivation becoming a lecturer. Let me quote that for you,

“Ada hal lain yang menjadi tujuan utama menjadi seorang dosen adalah menurut kepercayaan yang saya anut, satu dari tiga amal jariyah yang akan abadi adalah apabila kita membagikan ilmu yang bermanfaat bagi orang lain. Dan hal tersebut ada pada kewajiban menjadi seorang dosen.”

“The other reason is in my belief, one of the everlasting practices is sharing the beneficial knowledge to others. And that is obviously the lecturer’s responsibility”

I am touched. I am totally touched by his truth, his kindness, and his dreams. I am envy. I am envy with his ability to dream that big, I am envy with his heart to have a very kind reasons and goals, I am envy with his dedication to achieve his dreams.

He is a dedicated person, indeed. He prepared all the important event at the same time because the selection test was all happened on the wedding week! Early September, he got the notification that he passed the administration test, means he should go to Jogja for the next process. Meanwhile, he was preparing for the wedding at mid-September in Solo.

A day before the wedding, all day long, he was on Psychological test in Jogja. The day, 8 AM, he should sit down at the meja akad nikah in Solo. Right after, we need to go back to Jogja because he needs preparation time for his presentation. An hour after the presentation, we obligated to go to Magetan as we will have second wedding party there. No rest, no honeymoon, no times to ‘breath’. But Alhamdulillah, hard work and effort never betray.

I believe that what decided to be yours will be yours. How hard someone tried, if it does not belong to them then never in a million it will go for them. But one thing that I learn from Mas Fahmi is the capacity to dream, believe and make it happened, and this is why I am a proud wifey!

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The Wedding.

Hi there, 

Zidnie is back!

Few times ago, I opened a discussion in my Instagram @zidniedzakya, most of the question was about my wedding; the vendor, the budget, etc. So, instead of answering it on Instagram. Let me write it down for you. 

Me and mas Fahmi actually want things to be simple on our wedding, as simple as possible. But, hey, a simple wedding is required a long detailed complicated preparation, actually hahahaha :) 

First, me and my parents decided the venue. As I live in Solo, Central Java, and only had 2 months before the d-day, so we did not have many options. We visited several hotels in Solo, our considerations are; location, capacity, budget, and aesthetics. Based on its consideration, we ended up to choose Lorin Solo Hotel as it is near my home (LOL but logic, man!) and not disrupted by many infrastructure constructions in Solo. Its capacity is quite big; big enough to be a simple wedding we want and the place is beautiful. We use both the central garden and the ballroom. The garden equipped for the marriage statement and vow while the ballroom for the reception. We had no regret choosing Lorin Solo hotel as the place for a very special day of us. 

Ps: thanks a bunch to the Sales Marketing, mbak Viena. She knows how detailed I am so I negotiate almost everything! Lol.

Pict 1. The venue for marriage statement

Second, the reason of long discussion between me and my parents, Catering. The benefit of choosing hotel as the reception place is no need to worry about food, absolutely delish. But you know, mom always has her own option of catering, isn’t it? She wants the other catering as it has yum Selat Solo. But, we need to pay additional cost if we bring our own food to the hotel. Mission abort! Haha. Furthermore, because we did the food test and my mom was impressed by the food Lorin’s chef prepared so no complaint. SHE LOVES THE DISH! We choose our menu which are:

1. Selat Solo and Asparagus Chicken Soup as Appetizer
2. Beef Black Paper, Ayam Panggang Betutu, Nila Acar Kuning, Wok Fried Vegetable Oriental Sauce, Fried Rice Noodle with Seafood as Main Course
3. Bread Butter Pudding, Strawberry Short Cake, Es Sarang Burung and Es Teler as Dessert
4. Lumpia Lor In, Lapis Mandarin, Chicken Curry Puff, Klappertaart and Keripik Kentang as snacks

Lorin also offers free flow soft drink and mineral water.

The third things to prepare are décor, photographer, make-up artist and the wedding dress. With so limited times, I was lucky to find the best of the best vendor in Solo. They are counted as new player in this industry in Solo. But I guaranteed you, their works are amazing! 

I cooperated with Max Dekor (instagram: @maxdecorationsolo), Moment Terbaik Photography (ig: @weddingphotosolo), Cyntia Clarizka MUA (ig: @clarizka_mua), henna by alivia (ig: @hennabyalivia) and wedding dress by Hanna Amiroh (ig: @hannaamiroh).

Pict 2. Bride and Groom.

Fourth are the tiny bit things to support the wedding such as; souvenir, printed invitation, outfit for family. I won’t tell you much about this but one thing for sure; I LOVE THE INVITATION DESIGN. Made the one and only in the world by my husband to be! I know he’s so talented and I can rely on and I love him and I am forever grateful he is my husband. 

Pict 3. Three different designs based on the arrival time

I use a Wedding Organizer to help and direct on the day. How about before the day, Zid? Guys, the perfectionist girl like me is willingly to organize things. I was the bride, the WO, the secretary, the treasurer, the negotiator, the designer, and the auditor as well. HAHAHAHA

I created a Google Drive folder to help me communicate with the Groom and my family. I drafted the concept, the list of invitation, the budget, the timeline each day, the vendor details, the rundown, the key success indicator, etc. I told you I am crazily dedicated when I work 😎.

For the budget arrangement,

•          65% for the venue and catering
•         18% for decoration, photography, MUA, Wedding Dress.
•         17% for souvenir, invitation, outfit, WO fee, miscellanous. 

Hope it helps! Will write some more soon.

XOXO, 

Zidnie

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The Intro.

16^th Oct 2018.

Hi there,
Zidnie is taking over.

You might be wondering, who on earth Zidnie is so she can write things on the famous Fahmi Habibi’s blog. LOL.

This story will describe who am I. Just read through.

I am an ordinary girl. Was living in the land down under, pursued her dreams; taking master school and wandering along. Was not believe on the long distance love nor the marriage by only split seconds of knowing each other.

Then, somebody from the past showed. He unexpectedly came, the one that I knew from the past. It’s been 6 years for us, from the first (and yet the last) time we met.

I saw him as a long lost friend. We frequently talked, had chit-chat, or even just had a random discussion. We did it all by phone, and it was always at midnight in Australia. Cause you know, the time difference between his place, Hungary with Perth, Australia is 6 hours.

We almost talked about everything. The plans, the future, the past, the food recipe or even the gossip. But nope, we never talked about our own feelings nor love. We were friends. A long lost friend. That’s all.

I saw him objectively. I said “I will never, never, have a feeling to you”. I am not the type of girl who easily loving someone. I am a calculated logical systematic well thought person. You name it. In sum, I conclude based on evidence. I will love when my brain said yes, not my heart’s talk.  

However, it turns out that I am the first one who had a feeling to him. I realized I love him after several weeks in contact. This is why, you should careful with your word, human. I love his attitude, his way of thinking, his knowledge, his plans of the future, his personality towards his mom and family, and yes, I just love him. Crazy, I think! I made sets of criteria of the man I should love someday. And yes, girls, it’s on him. 

I even need a week to rationalize things. I was worried that my heart is taking over my body instead of my brain. I said to myself “You, weak person, how could you love someone while he was away. More than 14000 km. Then how will you ensure that this person is real, not the Artificial Intelligent?” But, hey, when Allah is planning, he will help. Most of his friends are mine and most of my friend are his. So the first person I contact was my cousin, she is his high school friends. I contacted my colleagues after and I called my friend’s friend as well. I collected data, I made hypothesis, and the result is out; I have no reason to turn him down. He is, without me realizing it, is my type, the man that I’ve been looking for.

May 2018, he asked me to be his co-pilot, his term refer to his wife. And this October 2018, me and him are celebrating a month living together as husband and wife. Happy first monthversarry, Fahmi Habibi. Sorry, I hijacked your blog. LOL.


XOXO,
Zidnie.

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